Thriving in Love and Money

5 Game-Changing Insights about Your Relationship, Your Money, and Yourself

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It's not about the money

Irritated when your spouse spends money on take-out--again? Feel the need to snag that package from the doorstep before your spouse sees it? Do you and your mate disagree on when to hire a professional and when to do it yourself, or on how much to spend on the kids on their birthdays? Are you tempted to avoid budget discussions, just to keep the peace?

You're not alone: 92 percent of couples have tension, fight, or try to avoid talking about money.

In a groundbreaking three-year study, relationship researchers Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn tackle this issue that affects almost every marriage every day. They discovered that money tension (and connection!) is not about the money. It's about how money makes us feel.

This book is your chance to understand the startling assumptions, fears, and expectations underneath the surface. To help your spouse respect your way of handling money--and for you to do the same. This book has nothing to do with money management, but is filled with the "aha" moments you need to come together around money, regardless of your income, stage of life, or budgeting status.

Shaunti and Jeff should know--before gathering these insights, they simply couldn't talk about money and even lived separate financial lives. What they uncovered in their research transformed their marriage--and is sure to transform yours.

"I highly recommend Thriving in Love and Money for all who want to replace conflict with harmony."--GARY CHAPMAN, PhD, author of The 5 Love Languages

Both with graduate degrees from Harvard, Shaunti and Jeff Feldhahn are bestselling authors, popular speakers, and internationally renowned social researchers. Their books have sold three million copies in twenty-five languages. Shaunti has worked on Wall Street and Capitol Hill. Jeff is an attorney and entrepreneur. They live in Atlanta with their two teenagers. Follow Shaunti at

The Authors

  1. Shaunti Feldhahn

    Shaunti Feldhahn

    Shaunti Feldhahn ( is a bestselling author, social researcher, speaker, and podcaster. With a graduate degree from Harvard, Shaunti uses her analytical background to help relationships thrive. She and her husband, Jeff, have coauthored...

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  2. Jeff Feldhahn

    Jeff Feldhahn

    Jeff Feldhahn is a bestselling author, popular speakers,and nationally-renowned social researcher. Fifteen years ago he and his wife, Shaunti, stumbled over some things they just didn't "get" about each other. They have used their analytical...

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