Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart

Discovering the Beauty and Freedom of God-Defined Sexuality

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"This message of God-defined sexuality is one every woman needs."--Dannah Gresh, author of And the Bride Wore White

For the modern Christian woman, embracing God's design for sexuality can often feel like an impossible pursuit. As the culture around us seeks to normalize things such as lust, pornography, erotica, and casual sex, you may be feeling immense pressure to conform. In this relatable and encouraging book, Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal share honestly about their own struggles and victories and dig into topics such as

· how your longings for intimacy point to a deeper need
· why God's original design for love, passion, and sex is good
· how to deal with secret sexual struggles
· and much more

Kristen and Bethany invite you on a personal journey to discover and reclaim a biblical vision for your sexuality--one that is good and relevant and will lead you toward true hope and lasting freedom.

"In a world riddled with sexual confusion, brokenness, and pain, I rejoice that voices like Kristen's and Bethany's are helping young women find their way--His way--and pointing them to the redeeming love and grace of Christ."--Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, author; teacher/host of Revive Our Hearts 

Kristen Clark and Bethany Beal are sisters, lifelong friends, the founders of GirlDefined Ministries, and the authors of Girl Defined and Love Defined. These Texas gals are passionate about God's beautiful design for womanhood and love sharing this message through blogging, speaking, and mentoring young women.



"I adore these authors! Kristen and Bethany dive headfirst into some of the most pressing topics of our day: sex, purity, identity, marriage, and more. The message of God-defined sexuality is one every woman needs."

Dannah Gresh, author of And the Bride Wore White

"Making sense of your sexuality may be a huge roadblock for you as a young Christian woman. Kristen and Bethany are compassionate friends who will encourage you in this journey! In Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart, they offer hope, practical advice, and godly wisdom."

Dr. Juli Slattery, cofounder of Authentic Intimacy; author of Rethinking Sexuality

"In a world riddled with sexual confusion, brokenness, and pain, I rejoice that voices like Kristen's and Bethany's are helping young women find their way--His way--and pointing them to the redeeming love and grace of Christ."

Nancy DeMoss Wolgemuth, author; teacher/host of Revive Our Hearts

"The sexual struggles and temptations of 'good' Christian girls are often kept in the dark. Kristen and Bethany openly share their personal journeys in an honest and refreshing way. This book is chock-full of solid, practical advice and is a great resource for every woman who longs to embrace a higher and more beautiful godly vision for sexuality."

Mary A. Kassian, author of Girls Gone Wise

"Our culture has hopelessly distorted sexuality, but this book shines a spotlight on God's original design for it. With transparency and grace, Kristen and Bethany share their own journeys to sexual purity, boldly expose lies, and encourage young women that there is a better way. Not ones to shy away from gritty topics, they tackle tough questions with biblical truth as they paint a beautiful picture of God's good design for sex and challenge us to seek the One Who can ultimately satisfy the longings of our hearts. You'll close the cover of this book challenged, inspired, and equipped to walk in purity--even in a culture that's anything but pure."

Sara Barratt, author; speaker; and lead editor for

"This is the book my generation needs. In a culture constantly broadcasting distorted and conflicting messages about sex, we need biblical truth to counteract the lies we hear. Bethany and Kristen graciously, humbly, and wisely help us navigate these complex issues as they point us to God's Word. Every twenty first-century girl needs to read this!"

Jaquelle Crowe, author of This Changes Everything

"Outstanding! Kristen and Bethany take on a difficult topic with robust grace, authentic transparency, and biblical clarity. Every girl needs to read this book."

Sean and Jenny Perron, counselors; authors; and director of operations at the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors (Sean)

"Somewhere between our culture's in-your-face messages about sex and the church's awkward silence, there's Sex, Purity, and the Longings of a Girl's Heart. As someone who longs to see this generation of young women walking in freedom, I can't champion this book loud enough. Bethany and Kristen remind us that sexuality is broken, but wholeness is possible when we choose to look for answers in the ultimate relationship manual--the Word of God."

Erin Davis, author; blogger; Bible teacher; and member of the GirlDefined Fan Club

"Kristen and Bethany use their own experiences to show that sexuality done the world's way isn't freedom; it's slavery. They challenge readers to the risky work of getting down into our brokenness, but Kristen and Bethany write with grace and truth, keeping the focus on the One who sets us free. They offer powerful help from the Word of God, the Spirit of Christ, and the saving power of the cross to break free from habitual sexual sin and shame and live in life-giving, soul-satisfying sexual purity."

Candice Watters, wife; mom; and author

"Transforming. Hopeful. Timely. Freeing. After reading this book, I personally found sexual freedom in areas I didn't even know I struggled with. I recommend this book for any daughter, wife, sister, mom, or friend--no matter her age!"

Alyssa Stephens, daughter; big sister; and longtime GirlDefined fan

"Finally, a book that deals with sexuality in a gracious, tactful, and biblical way. Kristen and Bethany are refreshingly candid and unashamedly scriptural as they teach why God created us with sexual desires and what to do about it. This book offers hope for every girl who has ever wondered if she is the only one who struggles with lust, freedom from slavery to her desires, and the truth about God's wonderful design for sexuality. Best of all, in these pages are dozens of Scriptures and practical truths to guide young women into a life of true sexual freedom--freedom to live according to God's design."

Allison Bontrager, blogger at From Allison

"One question: Where was this book all my life? Kristen and Bethany have done it again. With tender love yet firm conviction, they give us another installment of truth. Do yourself a favor and savor this book. Let it sink in deeply and then pass it along. You're never too far gone that God can't redeem any and every area of your life. This book (along with God's Word) is a great starting point toward healing and redemption."

Crystal Navarro, simply a flawed reflection of a perfect Jesus and a GirlDefined supporter

The Authors

  1. Kristen Clark

    Kristen Clark

    Kristen Clark is married to her best friend, Zack, and is cofounder of Girl Defined Ministries. She is passionate about promoting the message of God-defined womanhood through blogging, speaking, mentoring young women, and hosting Bible studies in her living...

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  2. Bethany Beal

    Bethany Beal

    Bethany Beal is head-over-heels in love with her best friend and husband, David, and is the super-proud mommy of Davey Jr. She is cofounder of Girl Defined Ministries and is passionate about spreading the truth of biblical womanhood through writing, speaking,...

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