Experiencing the Freedom and Joy of Being Fully Known and Fully Loved
Marriage is all about oneness: sharing joys and sorrows, hopes and dreams. Yet we often hold back a part of ourselves because we fear that being wholly transparent--about our past, our desires, our failures, our faults--will bring judgment, rejection, or even just unwanted friction to our relationship. We are afraid to be fully known. As a result, we never experience being fully loved.
Ryan and Selena Frederick are convinced there's more. In this new, paradigm-shifting book, they show you how to develop a see-through marriage, one that is marked by full transparency and confident vulnerability. Through personal stories, testimonies from other couples, and biblical truth, they make the case that living authentically in front of each other and within gospel-centered community is the only way to experience love the way we were designed to.
"Ryan and Selena don't hold back from exposing the truth and the powerful impact of living a transparent life. Covering everything from social media and identity to community and sex in marriage, they have unpacked a necessary call to action for every husband and wife, and every person alike, to be transparent so that the light of Christ can shine bright."--Aaron and Jennifer Smith, authors of Marriage after God: Chasing Boldly after God's Purpose for Your Life Together
"Our friends Ryan and Selena Frederick are one of the most authentic and inspiring couples on the planet. If you'll read this book and apply its principles, it truly has the potential to change your perspective and change your marriage for the better!"--Dave and Ashley Willis, authors, speakers, and TV hosts for MarriageToday
Ryan and Selena Frederick created FierceMarriage.com in 2013 when they felt God calling them to share, with complete transparency, the struggles God had helped them overcome. Since then, Fierce Marriage has grown into a thriving online community and podcast with hundreds of thousands of readers and listeners each month. Ryan is currently pursuing a master's degree in theological studies from Westminster Theological Seminary. Ryan and Selena have three daughters and live in the Pacific Northwest.
"Ryan and Selena don't hold back from exposing the truth and the powerful impact of living a transparent life. Covering everything from social media and identity to community and sex in marriage, they have unpacked a necessary call to action for every husband and wife, and every person alike, to be transparent so that the light of Christ can shine bright. We have learned on our journey of marriage that true transparency, what the Fredericks define as 'meaningful risk,' is the only way to be truly known and undoubtedly loved. Risk for the sake of walking in light and letting God's light prevail is necessary and beautiful. See-Through Marriage is a must-read for all!"
Aaron and Jennifer Smith, authors of Marriage after God: Chasing Boldly after God's Purpose for Your Life Together
"Our friends Ryan and Selena Frederick are one of the most authentic and inspiring couples on the planet. Their new book, See-Through Marriage, is a powerful resource that will simultaneously strengthen your faith, clarify your purpose, and fuel your souls for the journey. This book is a practical roadmap to authenticity, transparency, and intimacy in every aspect of your marriage. If you'll read this book and apply its principles, it truly has the potential to change your perspective and change your marriage for the better!"
Dave and Ashley Willis, authors, speakers, and TV hosts for MarriageToday
"Ryan and Selena guide you compassionately and practically into the honest and sometimes risky places that cultivate the marriage God has hard-wired you to long for, grow into, and enjoy."
David Robbins, president and CEO, FamilyLife
"There are many people in the 'marriage' space, but few are as authentic and transparent as Ryan and Selena. It makes perfect sense they would write See-Through Marriage and encourage couples to live the life they model themselves. After spending time personally with Ryan and Selena and reading this new book, I believe 100 percent that See-Through Marriage will make your relationship better and will help ignite new intimacy and unity in your marriage. This isn't a 'one-note' book. It's full of helpful wisdom to apply in many different situations within the marriage context. If you're looking to invest in your marriage and want to learn from a couple who is living out the message they are writing, look no further than See-Through Marriage."
Brent Evans, president of MarriageToday and founder of XO Marriage
"If you have a heartbeat, being fully known is incredibly scary. Especially with your spouse. Rejection is just a word or smirk away. But let us assure you, in a world full of people showing one side of themselves on social media while living a different reality behind closed doors, Ryan and Selena are a breath of fresh air. They live a see-through life. You can trust the words of this book because you can trust the souls who penned it. The transparency of their stories will be proof."
Dr. Josh and Christi Straub, hosts of the Famous at Home podcast and authors of What Am I Feeling?
"Ryan and Selena are consistently willing to dive into topics that very few others are willing to talk about. In See-Through Marriage, they graciously invite us into a journey where hope and healing are found. In short, they invite us into the light. If your marriage longs for less how-to 'hacks' and more Jesus, this book is for you."
Jerrad Lopes, founder of Dad Tired
"As one who once hid my broken places and believed the lie that no one would love me if they really knew me, and as one who sees that lie play out day after day, I could not find See-Through Marriage more timely or essential. This book stares plainly at our darkest fear, that of rejection at the point of intimacy, and offers tools to help us on the path to truly knowing one another and being known. Allow yourself to be challenged. Allow yourself to be encouraged. Allow yourself to remember that, even in your darkest places, you're loved and never alone."
Steven Elliott, veterans' advocate and author of War Story: A Memoir
"In See-Through Marriage, Ryan and Selena lead you through how to live a life and develop a marriage full of transparency, centered in Christ in all you do. This book is rooted in the gospel and teaches about the gift of marriage the Lord gave to us. Ryan and Selena provide many examples of marital hardships they have overcome, what they learned about themselves and each other in the process, and how they grow in their marriage through each challenge. This book is a must-read for all couples to work through and apply in their life together."
Andrew Moore, professional baseball player
"Thousands of married people are drawn to Ryan and Selena. But why? Why in a sea of marriage content and marriage gurus are couples drawn to the Fredericks? Because they are exactly what they unpack in this book--they are transparent with God, each other, and you. They don't call you to a marriage like theirs, they help you discover the best version of a marriage like yours. Who doesn't want that? (And it will take you less time than binging a Netflix series.)"
Ted Lowe, author, podcast host, and director of MarriedPeople.org
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