Love Defined

Embracing God’s Vision for Lasting Love and Satisfying Relationships

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Our culture is obsessed with love and romance--so why are so few women experiencing satisfying, long-term love?

In this insightful and encouraging book, sisters Kristen Clark and Bethany Baird help single women of all ages discover a radically better approach to navigating their love lives. Covering topics such as true love, romance, purposeful relationships, purity, boundaries, singleness, and glorifying God in every stage of our relationships, Love Defined unpacks God's original design for romance, showing modern women how to experience God's best for them in their relationships. Full of biblical truths and step-by-step application of concepts discussed, the book also includes a chapter-by-chapter study guide to be used individually or in small groups, as well as four letters from godly women who have been married for 30, 40, and 50+ years, offering priceless, hard-won advice to single women.


"Bethany and Kristen have done a wonderful job of helping you find 'true north' in the pursuit of dating and love. If you've ever wanted a wise big sister to help you navigate relationships, this book gives you two of them! Their advice is practical, is grounded in truth, and will lead you to God's heart for romance and sexuality."

Dr. Juli Slattery, cofounder of Authentic Intimacy and author of Sex and the Single Girl

"In Love Defined, Kristen and Bethany challenge the popular status quo approach to relationships. Their ideas are radical. Countercultural. If you're a young woman looking for true romance according to God's way, you can't afford to miss this book!"

Mary A. Kassian, author of Girls Gone Wise

"Kristen and Bethany are refreshing voices of truth and wisdom on the subjects of love, dating, and sex. I am so glad to see these two sisters coming together to present God's will for relationships. You'll devour Love Defined, enjoy some great laughs, and most of all, define real, lasting love for yourself. The truth is, we are not alone on this journey. God is right here with us, unfolding His word and casting light as we put Him at the center of our lives."

Jennifer Strickland, founder of; speaker; author of 21 Myths (Even Good) Girls Believe about Sex, More Beautiful Than You Know, and Beautiful Lies

"I'm so impressed by the raw honesty, deep care, and biblical wisdom found in this book. If you are looking for true love, don't continue without this guide. If you've been burned by a relationship, this book will help heal your wounds. Whether you are thirteen or thirty-one, this book is full of wisdom for you. Listen to Kristen and Bethany as they plant you beside streams of water to refresh you with God's true design for love."

Sean Perron, director of operations at the Association of Certified Biblical Counselors; author of Letters to a Romantic: On Dating and Letters to a Romantic: On Engagement

"Today's dating culture thrives on hookups and heartbreaks, with young women caught in a vicious cycle of hope-filled infatuation and crushing disappointment. With marriage on the decline and the divorce rate on the rise, it's pretty clear that modern dating methods are not working. I believe God has a more glorious path for His girls, a way that is smarter and leads to a stronger future. The practical and hope-filled truth found in Love Defined points women to a biblical approach to finding true love and establishing lasting relationships. I can't stress this enough--this book is a must-read for young women!"

Marian Jordan Ellis, author of Stand and Sex and the Single Christian Girl

"The ancient wisdom of God's Word has never been more timely, and the seasoned wisdom of older women has never been more needed than in our sexually and relationally confused time. Praise God for Kristen's and Bethany's candor and grace in this readable, practical guide to romance and marriage. I pray countless Christian young women will be spurred on to obedience and godliness by these sisters' exhortation."

Candice Watters, author of Get Married

"This is a book I want to give to every girl in my generation. In a culture that defines love in a hopelessly shallow and (ultimately) destructive way, Kristen and Bethany call us to a better definition. They point us to God's Word with uncompromising humility, honesty, grace, and transparency. This book will give you two new friends and faithful mentors. My prayer is that you will imitate Bethany and Kristen as they imitate Christ."

Jaquelle Crowe, author of This Changes Everything

"Our concept of love needs a makeover. My friends Kristen and Bethany (founders of GirlDefined Ministries) are just the girls for the job. Love Defined is not just another book about romance. It's an invitation to see past the fairy tale and focus on something better. In a style that makes you feel like you're sipping coffee with a great friend, Kristen and Bethany invite you to look at love through the lens of the gospel. As they hold high the banner of true, lasting love, you will find your heart strengthened and your concept of love reimagined."

Erin Davis, writer, blogger, and GirlDefined fan

The Authors

  1. Kristen Clark

    Kristen Clark

    Kristen Clark is married to her high school sweetheart, Zack, is the cofounder of GirlDefined Ministries and coauthor of Girl Defined. She is passionate about promoting the message of biblical womanhood through blogging, speaking, mentoring young women,...

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  2. Bethany Baird

    Bethany Baird

    Bethany Baird is a Texas born and raised girl doing life with her parents and seven siblings. She is the cofounder of GirlDefined Ministries, coauthor of Girl Defined and is passionate about spreading the truth of biblical womanhood through blogging,...

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