From We to Me

Embracing Life Again After the Death or Divorce of a Spouse

Cover Art

Where to Purchase


While we don't like to think about it, marriages eventually do come to an end, either with the death of a spouse or tragically through divorce. This "end" of a relationship leaves the other partner alone and facing an uncertain future. Whether widowed or divorced, the feeling and experience of aloneness--moving from being a "we to a me"---is a common one. This latest book from noted grief experts and authors Zonnebelt-Smeenge and De Vries focuses on two of five grief journey tasks--separating oneself and reinvesting fully in one's own life--offering a unique self-help, psychological, and spiritual guide for the process of helping either the widowed or divorced to redefine and reinvest in life.


"This practical and insightful book speaks to the needs and questions of a major portion of our population. Readers will be thankful for the carefully crafted insights from Robert and Susan."--H. Norman Wright, author, Recovering from Losses in Life

"'Whole, healthy, and content without my mate? Impossible.' If death or divorce have left you thinking words like this, you need to curl up with From We to Me. Bob and Susan will soon seem like close friends. They will gently guide you through the shoals of initial unwanted singleness and help you embrace a hopeful vision for your future."--Steve Grissom, founder, DivorceCare and GriefShare support groups

"This is love! Robert and Susan once again reach out to help the most lonely of people. The divorcing and the widowed are so alone! This book talks to you like the dear loving friends the authors are. This is vital information in a very caring form. Here is friendship in print."--James Kok, pastor; author of 90% of Helping Is Just Showing Up

"Bob and Susan speak to the broken hearts struggling with grief over the loss of a primary relationship. The process of grief can be a dark and confusing journey as the griever tries to rediscover a meaningful life as a single person. These authors provide a lamp to light the way out of the darkness into a new light. They use God's promises to reassure the lonely and reaffirm those who feel unloved."--Arthur E. Jongsma, Jr. , clinical psychologist; author and series editor, PracticePlanner books and TheraScribe software

"A valuable resource for those moving back to 'we' from 'me.'"--Kenneth C. Haugk, executive director, Stephen Ministries (

The Authors

  1. Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge R.N., Ed.D

    Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge R.N., Ed.D

    Susan J. Zonnebelt-SmeengeRN, EdD, is a licensed clinical psychologist now in private practice in Marietta, Georgia. She worked at Pine Rest Christian Mental Health Services in Grand Rapids, Michigan, for over 20 years. She speaks...

    Continue reading about Susan J. Zonnebelt-Smeenge R.N., Ed.D

  2. Robert C. De Vries

    Robert C. De Vries

    Robert C. De Vries, DMin, PhD, is professor emeritus of church education at Calvin Theological Seminary and an ordained pastor. He speaks nationally to churches, community groups, and professional organizations and facilitates a variety of...

    Continue reading about Robert C. De Vries