Each for the Other, Revised Edition

Marriage as It’s Meant to Be

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Building a strong marriage is tough. Yet the Bible is packed with principles on nurturing an intimate, rewarding relationship. Marriage as it was created to be means understanding God's plan for unconditional love.

In Each for the Other, Bryan Chapell and his wife, Kathy, offer an in-depth discussion of biblical truths you can apply to your marriage starting today. Together, they teach you:

Whether you're engaged, newly married, or in a seasoned relationship, Each for the Other offers indispensable truths on how to sacrificially love your partner. It also includes discussion questions--perfect for individual or couple study.


"A refreshing and definitive look at God's instructions to couples on how to live sacrificially--for each other and for their families."--Dennis Rainey, executive director, Family Life, Campus Crusade for Christ

"Wielding his biblical scalpel with careful thoroughness, Bryan Chapell cuts to the heart of selfishness, irresponsibility, and abuse that mar so many supposedly Christian marriages today. More than that, he marks out the path of self-denying love in marriage with a firm hand, and provides discussion questions to ensure that couples who have read the book have grasped its message. This exposition can do nothing but good."--J. I. Packer, author, theologian

"Each for the Other is one of the few indispensable books on marriage. Because of its biblical precisions and practical sensitivity, it is sweetly radical and bracing. Here is the landscape of marriage as it ought to be. This is a book to read, re-read, and savor; a first class achievement."--R. Kent Hughes, College Church in Wheaton

"A marvelous treatment of the biblical model for and teaching on the family."--R. C. Sproul, author, theologian

"The best book I've read on the biblical view of family. It is refreshing in this day of 'how-to' books to also learn the 'whys' of God's concerns for the family."--Vesta Sproul, author

"Devoid of tiresome clichés and performance-based stereotypes, Each for the Other is a refreshing study of what marriage can be when the gospel captures the hearts of a husband and wife, and grace fuels their intimacy. This encouraging book once again convinced me that marriage, like all of life, is to be lived out of the extravagant supply of God's love for us in Christ."--Scotty Smith, senior pastor, Christ Community Church, Franklin, Tennessee; author, Objects of His Affection

"This book is the most thorough exposition of Ephesians 5:22-6:4 that I have read. It covers not only the husband and wife relationship but also that of parent and child. It is thoroughly scriptural, balanced, and fair to husband and wife, parent and child."--Jerry Bridges, author, The Discipline of Grace

"There are so many books on marriage, and most of them are nonsense. They are either too lofty to help or too silly to abide. This one is profound, so if you read only one book on marriage, make this one it. Biblical, realistic, and practical. You'll thank me for recommending it to you."--Steve Brown, president, Key Life radio program; professor, Reformed Theological Seminary

"The insights are profound, but simple, and the distinction between submission as power and submission as grace is quite helpful."--Michael Horton, author, theologian, editor of Modern Reformation

"I have used this book in premarital counseling and have seen it shape couples' perspectives on the incredible intricacies of the marriage relationship. I have used it with married couples who are on the verge of trashing their whole relationship and have seen it pinpoint their selfishness and self-centeredness. This is a tool that you will want to have at your disposal, that it may do a work in your life and be used in the lives of others. This is a book I will want to read over and over again."--George Mitchell, chairman, Christian Education Committee, Presbyterian Church in America (PCA)

"As I read Each for the Other I had the sense of finding something for which I had long looked. The church is in desperate need of a teaching tool to help God's people build marriages that reflect the reality of His grace. I think this book is that tool. Bryan combines theological precision with tender practicality and passionately presents the need for and God's provision of grace in our marriages. This book is a must-read for every married couple and for every person considering marriage."--Susan Hunt, author, past director of Women in the Church, Presbyterian Church in America (PCA)

"In a culture that often depreciates or functionalizes the marriage relationship, Bryan Chapell calls Christian couples to live beyond themselves in living out the gospel for one another. By reminding a husband, for example, that 'headship has strings attached,' and by encouraging a wife to honor her spouse 'not because of the goodness he possesses, but because of the grace he needs,' this book invites both partners to commit themselves to becoming conduits of God's sacrificial love for one another and for their children. Each for the Other is balanced, refreshing, practical, and thoroughly biblical."--Nancy Groom, author, Married without Masks and Heart to Heart about Men

The Authors

  1. Bryan Chapell
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    Bryan Chapell

    Bryan Chapell, PhD, is president of Unlimited Grace Media, daily broadcasting grace-filled messages in most major US markets and streaming preaching instruction in 1,500 cities in 90+ nations with 150,000 email subscribers. He also leads the Administrative...

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  2. Kathy Chapell

    Kathy Chapell

    Bryan Chapell and his wife, Kathy, have been married for more than twenty-five years and live in St. Louis, Missouri.

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