Sacred Privilege

Your Life and Ministry as a Pastor's Wife

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"My passionate prayer is that every pastor's wife will get to read this book, because it could save your life, marriage, family, and ministry from a lot of unnecessary pain. And it can help make the rest of your life, the best of your life."--Rick Warren

Life as a pastor's wife offers meaningful opportunities to play a significant part in God's work, to witness and participate in the beauty of changed lives. Yet it also carries the potential for deep wounds and great conflict that can drain the joy out of service. Is it worth it? Oh yes, says Kay Warren, cofounder of Saddleback Church. It is more than worth the risk--it's a sacred privilege.

Drawing on more than forty years in ministry, Kay provides encouraging principles and life lessons, along with intimate personal stories, that will give you the confidence you need to lead and live well. You'll learn to

- accept who you are
- adapt to change
- help your children survive and thrive
- protect your private life
- deal with criticism
- live with integrity
- develop an eternal perspective

Whether you are excited, struggling, or feeling broken and tired, you will find hope and encouragement for your calling in Kay's warm and wise words.

Yours is a role unlike any other. No matter what size church you and your husband serve in, whether you came into the role of pastor's wife with eager anticipation or with hesitation and a protective shell around your heart, the role of a pastor's wife is unique. With candor and compassion, Kay Warren, co-founder of Saddleback Church, pastor's wife, and pastor's daughter, offers tremendous encouragement about your role, including

- the significance and impact pastors' wives have in the Body of Christ
- an inside look at the ups and downs of this special role
- affirmation that the rewards are worth the effort, pain, and loss of privacy
- invaluable advice for living with the pressure of a public position

As you fulfill this unique calling, this sacred privilege, Kay's words will be a gift in every season of your ministry.

Kay Warren cofounded Saddleback Church with her husband, Rick Warren, in Lake Forest, California. She is a passionate Bible teacher and a tireless advocate for those living with mental illness, HIV&AIDS, and the orphaned and vulnerable children left behind. She founded Saddleback's HIV&AIDS Initiative. Kay is the author of Choose Joy: Because Happiness Isn't Enough and Say Yes to God and coauthor of Foundations, the popular systematic theology course used by churches worldwide. Her children are Amy and Josh, and Matthew who is in heaven, and she has five grandchildren, Kaylie, Cassidy, Caleb, Cole, and Claire. Learn more at and follow her on Facebook (Kay Warren) and on Twitter (@KayWarren1).

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    Kay Warren

    Kay Warren cofounded Saddleback Church with her husband, Rick Warren, in Lake Forest, California, in 1980. After the death of her son, Matthew, who lived with serious mental illness for most of his life, she founded Saddleback's Hope for Mental Health...

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