Outdated

Find Love That Lasts When Dating Has Changed

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Ready to trade the world's way of dating for the way that actually works?

Everyone wants to be loved--to find someone who will stick with them through all of life's ups and downs, someone who is in it for the long haul. But in a world where dating is increasingly based on split-second decisions and geared toward casual relationships rather than marriage, it's easy to feel discouraged, used, or unworthy of true love and lasting affection.

Jonathan "JP" Pokluda has counseled thousands of young singles through the pain and heartbreak of dating the world's way. Now he wants to dispel the myths, misconceptions, and fairy tales you've believed about dating and replace them with the truth from the One who invented marriage, created you to crave relationship, and is the very embodiment of true love. With plenty of true stories about relationships healed and love found, this practical book explains God's purposes for singleness, dating, and marriage and covers why you should date, who you should date, and how you should date.


"With kindness, compassion, and thoughtfulness, JP gives godly wisdom that walks us toward the relationships with God, others, and ourselves that we really want."--Annie F. Downs, bestselling author of 100 Days to Brave and host of That Sounds Fun podcast

"Modern dating causes pain and problems and leads to confusion and frustration. In Outdated, JP reveals that the Bible is full of wisdom principles you can use to find incredible joy in dating--and a lasting love for life."--Kyle Idleman, author Not a Fan and Don't Give Up

"Everything about dating has changed, and there is no one I trust more to help you navigate it than JP! He is a leader for the next generation."--Jennie Allen, New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head and founder and visionary of IF:Gathering


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"Every Christian I know who isn't married yet is looking for dating advice. How to do this well in our day, with our technology and our culture, is a leading conversation, and honestly, JP is the leading expert. In this book, with kindness, compassion, and thoughtfulness, JP gives godly wisdom that walks us toward the relationships with God, others, and ourselves that we really want."

Annie F. Downs, bestselling author of 100 Days to Brave and host of That Sounds Fun podcast

"Modern dating is already outdated. It causes pain and problems and leads to confusion and frustration. In Outdated, JP reveals that the Bible is full of wisdom principles you can use to find incredible joy in dating--and a lasting love for life. Some people think that following what is fashionable in dating is the way to go. The truth is Outdated has the timeless secrets of relationship favor for you."

Kyle Idleman, author Not a Fan and Don't Give Up

"Everything about dating has changed, and there is no one I trust more to help you navigate it than JP! He is a leader for the next generation."

Jennie Allen, New York Times bestselling author of Get Out of Your Head and founder and visionary of IF:Gathering

"If you are dating, you need this book in your life! Throughout this book, JP is constantly pointing you to the truth that's worth standing on while helping you dismantle the lies culture has sold us about dating. You can date and glorify God while doing it! Let this book be a guide to you on that journey!"

Jamie Ivey, bestselling author and podcaster

"Confusion and disappointment are the two main words I hear from young adults when chatting about dating and relationships in today's landscape. Yet there also isn't much wisdom or good voices out there. That's why I love Outdated and JP. This book is powerful, tactical, wise, and inspiring all at the same time. We are due for a fresh vision on all things dating and relationship related, and JP delivers that to us in this amazing book."

Jefferson Bethke, author of Take Back Your Family

"One thing is for certain: dating in today's culture is confusing, twisted, and often filled with frustration and disappointment. Something needs to change. Outdated offers a clear and practical roadmap for dating in a new way. Unafraid of being incredibly forward, JP is powerfully direct in his words as he dismantles some of the top dating myths in culture today and replaces them with powerful, life-altering truth. If you are single or dating, without question you need this book in your hands."

Kait Warman, author of Thank You for Rejecting Me, relationship coach, and founder of Heart of Dating

"If only I could go back and give this book to my college self! JP's practical wisdom and insight would have saved me from so much unnecessary pain. Here is a textbook on dating that is saturated with Scripture, pregnant with hope, and authenticated by real life experience. I commend Outdated to any and every young adult. I beg you to view it as required reading for the sake of your joy. There is no need to risk several wrong turns when JP is handing you a map. Keep this resource close by throughout young adulthood."

Timothy Ateek, executive director of Breakaway Ministries

"Next to the decision to follow Jesus, there is no decision more significant that who you will marry. This book is a must-read for anyone trying to successfully navigate love, sex, dating, and marriage."

David Marvin, leader of The Porch


The Authors

  1. Jonathan "JP" Pokluda

    Jonathan "JP" Pokluda

    Jonathan "JP" Pokluda is lead pastor of Harris Creek Baptist Church in Waco, Texas, and former leader of The Porch, where he saw the ministry grow from 150 to more than 7,000 young adults. The author of the bestselling Welcome to Adulting, as...

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  2. Kevin McConaghy

    Kevin McConaghy

    Kevin McConaghy works as a copywriter for a marketing agency in Dallas, Texas. He's been involved with The Porch since the day it first launched, and served in a variety of roles there for over a decade. As an editor and contributor to The Porch blog,...

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