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God never called us to be nice.
Niceness. It keeps the peace, wins friends, gains influence, and serves our reputations well. It looks a lot like following Jesus, but it takes all the power and freedom out of our lives. In this eye-opening DVD, Sharon Hodde Miller shares her own battle with this false faith, confesses the bad fruit it produced in her life, and offers practical steps for cutting down the tree at its root. In five sessions, you'll learn how to
· identify the most common forms of nice Christianity and how they manifest in your life
· stop being nice and start practicing true kindness, honesty, courage, and joy
· develop a deeper, sturdier faith that can withstand life's storms and even flourish in the middle of them

Take a stand, take back your faith, and follow the Savior who was kind, gentle, compassionate, patient, and good, but never simply nice.

Sharon Hodde Miller leads Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, with her husband, Ike. In addition to speaking all over the country and earning her PhD, she is the author of Free of Me: Why Life Is Better When It's Not about You. Sharon has been a regular contributor to sites like She Reads Truth, Propel, and Christianity Today, and she has blogged at for over ten years. When she is not leading, teaching, or writing, her favorite place to be is at home with her husband and three kids.

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Produced by RightNow Media / Directed by Lindsie Herring and Will Irwin / Graphics by Mark Weaver / Distributed by Baker Publishing Group / Cover design by Patti L. Brinks / Front cover photo by Shutterstock

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  1. Sharon Hodde Miller

    Sharon Hodde Miller

    Sharon Hodde Miller, PhD, is teaching pastor at Bright City Church in Durham, North Carolina, which she cofounded with her husband, Ike. The author of Free of Me and Nice, Miller has blogged at for over ten years, has been a...

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