Loving My Actual Neighbor

7 Practices to Treasure the People Right in Front of You

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"Sometimes books make you feel good; other times they make you better. This one does both."--Krista Gilbert, author of Reclaiming Home and cohost of The Open Door Sisterhood podcast

As Christians, we know we are called to love our neighbor. But how do we do that? Where do we start? What does this look like in our increasingly isolated world?

Following practices outlined in the first chapter of 2 Peter, Alexandra Kuykendall lays out the framework for where to begin. From practicing humility to listening with understanding to being generous in our relationships, Loving My Actual Neighbor offers practical, start-now steps you can take to love your actual neighbors.


"With honesty, humility, creativity, and transparency, Alex gives us seven practical and biblical steps to lean into relationships right in front of us so that we can experience the beauty of authentic, grace-covered neighboring and community. I highly recommend this book!"--Renee Swope, bestselling author of A Confident Heart and former radio cohost, Proverbs 31 Ministries

"We have an opportunity to send the world a message of hope by caring for the people right around us. Loving My Actual Neighbor offers practical approaches to connecting with our neighbors, our officemates, and the person we find standing next to us on the soccer sidelines."--Dave Runyon, coauthor of The Art of Neighboring


Alexandra Kuykendall is the author of Loving My Actual Life, Loving My Actual Christmas, and The Artist's Daughter and the cohost of The Open Door Sisterhood podcast. A popular writer and speaker for moms around the country, Alexandra has been featured on Good Morning America and Focus on the Family's daily broadcast. She lives in Denver, Colorado, with her husband, Derek, and their four daughters.


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"Sometimes books make you feel good; other times they make you better. This one does both. Loving My Actual Neighbor challenges us to put down our phones, cross the street, the coffee shop, or the carpool line, and rediscover spontaneous human connection. Alex's keen insights into our personal and cultural realities make her the perfect person to speak into how we can shift our lives from disconnected to connected with the people right around us every day. If you want life to be less busy and more meaningful, this is your book."

Krista Gilbert, author of Reclaiming Home and cohost of The Open Door Sisterhood podcast

"In a culture saturated in all things 'social,' we've become isolated and too busy for each other in real life. We know more about strangers we've never met than the people we see every day, walking their dogs, playing with their kids, or waving hello as they drive by our house. In Loving My Actual Neighbor, Alex Kuykendall shares her own story of stepping out of her comfort zone and learning how to love those around her with more intention. With honesty, humility, creativity, and transparency, Alex gives us seven practical and biblical steps to lean into relationships right in front of us so that we can experience the beauty of authentic, grace-covered neighboring and community. I highly recommend this book!"

Renee Swope, bestselling author of A Confident Heart and former radio cohost, Proverbs 31 Ministries

"Loving My Actual Neighbor is a great resource for any Christian who is wanting to do better at building relationships with those not already in their immediate circles. It offers practical approaches to connecting with our neighbors, our officemates, and the person we find standing next to us on the soccer sidelines. We have an opportunity to send the world a message of hope by caring for the people right around us. Alex is the real deal, and she lives out the content of this book in her everyday life!"

Dave Runyon, coauthor of The Art of Neighboring

"Do you love your neighbor? Or do you not know her name yet? Many of us theoretically believe in loving our neighbor, but when life gets busy the reality is it's hard to remember her name. Learning to care about and love the person right next door to you can be a life-changing journey. Alex Kuykendall's Loving My Actual Neighbor is an encouragement to reach across the fence, open up your heart, and build a connection in the relationships right in front of you."

Claire Díaz-Ortiz, author and speaker, ClaireDiazOrtiz.com

"Loving My Actual Neighbor inspired me, guided me with insightful ideas, and left me wanting to love Jesus more. A very practical and needed voice to help women do real ministry. I hope women will read this book, take it to heart, and, of course, share with their neighbors!"

Sally Clarkson, author of The Lifegiving Home and host of the At Home with Sally podcast, SallyClarkson.com

"In a time and space where it's easier for us to surround ourselves with those who look, think, and vote like us, we need tools to help us engage with and authentically love those who may not. We need to take practical steps to begin closing the gap of things that divide us. Taking Jesus's command to love our neighbor seriously means doing the hard work, it means sacrifice, and it requires a retraining of our brains to enter into relationships of mutuality with one another, where we can genuinely say you need me and I also need you. With personal experience and practical insight, Alex Kuykendall guides us through this process."

Vickie Reddy, executive producer, The Justice Conference

"Let's be honest. L-O-V-E is a four-letter, power-packed word that can be so hard to show to people we live with, much less someone we barely know! Alexandra does a great job in Loving My Actual Neighbor to remind us of the importance of drawing close to people instead of pulling away, to choose love especially when we don't feel like it. And most of all she reminds us that sometimes we need to simply see past our assumptions and fears, get up, knock on a neighbor's door, and just say hello!"

Maggie John, host and senior executive producer, 100 Huntley Street

"In a world searching for connection, Alexandra Kuykendall takes us by the hand and walks with us through the uncertainties, anxieties, and inevitable neighbor fails of learning to belong to the people near us. This book is full of practical ideas for anyone longing for true community but too nervous to open the door. Where do we start? Right here."

Shannan Martin, author of The Ministry of Ordinary Places and Falling Free

"A book has never been more needed than this one! Refreshing and practical, it helps us approach loving our neighbors with humility and connection. It's actually how I think Jesus might love if he lived next door today. These pages are helping us take giant steps in all the little ways of practicing love right in our own communities. And that has potential to change the world!"

Sarah Harmeyer, founder and chief people gatherer, Neighbor's Table


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    Alexandra Kuykendall

    Alexandra Kuykendall is the author of Loving My Actual Life, Loving My Actual Christmas, and The Artist's Daughter and the cohost of The Open Door Sisterhood podcast. A popular writer and speaker for moms around the country....

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