Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted

Biblical Direction for Friends, Family Members, and Those Struggling With Homosexuality

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A Message of Hope and Grace

Sometimes in our big-picture discussions about homosexuality and same-sex marriage, we lose sight of the person in the middle of the struggle. Whether that struggler is you or someone you care about, there are two fundamental questions that need to be answered: How can someone with same-sex attraction be faithful to Jesus? And how can everyone else support and encourage them in this pursuit?

With clarity and grace, author and pastor Ron Citlau will help you think through every option the Bible offers--and what it does not. Having personally dealt with same-sex attraction, walked with others still struggling, and pastored those with gay loved ones, he encourages readers to think deeply and biblically about heterosexual marriage, singleness, celibacy, and more.

Discover the remarkable gifts God provides to the same-sex-attracted Christian who desires to faithfully follow Jesus. And learn how others can come alongside them with love, encouragement, and grace.

Ron Citlau
serves as senior pastor of Calvary Church near Chicago. Ron is co-author of Compassion Without Compromise (with Adam Barr) and helped produce curriculum on sexual healing now used by Desert Stream Ministries in hundreds of churches throughout the country. Ron lives with his wife, Amy, in Chicago.


"I am deeply grateful to my friend Ron for writing this book. He reinforces Gospel hope that has been lost in too many circles, either abandoned for false teaching or set aside as wishful thinking. With selfless honesty and humility, Ron extends the healing Jesus died to make possible."

Adam T. Barr, author, Compassion Without Compromise; lead pastor, Peace Church

"Insightful and intriguing. Ron Citlau offers a compelling voice not often heard in today's conversation surrounding this topic. Throughout God's Kingdom Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted will prove to be helpful and inspiring."

Bob Bouwer, senior pastor, Faith Church

"Glorious. Without demonizing his opponents, Ron burns off the debris and reveals Jesus to persons impacted by same-sex attraction. That's everyone. Read and bask in the Hope that redeems the struggle and invites us into a new way of being and loving. Best evangelical book on the subject today. Maybe ever."

Andrew Comiskey, founder/director, Desert Stream/Living Waters Ministries

"When it comes to navigating the complex topics addressed in the pages of this book, Ron Citlau is on the top of my list of people I trust to handle the conversation biblically, compassionately, and pastorally. As you read, you might find yourself agreeing strongly, disagreeing profusely, or somewhere in between. But, wherever you come from on this important and contemporary topic, you will appreciate Ron's wisdom, grace, and honesty."

Rev. Dr. Kevin G. Harney, pastor; author; and founder , Organic Outreach International; KevinGHarney.com

"Ron Citlau exhibits warmth, insight, and courage in Hope for the Same-Sex Attracted. I am grateful for this book!"

Peter Hubbard, teaching pastor, North Hills Community Church

"Pastor Citlau has written a helpful book for Christians struggling with homosexuality. He thoughtfully addresses some of the theological errors of our day--including the embrace of a 'gay Christian' identity and 'same-sex marriage.' He vulnerably shares his own struggle and gives realistic, biblical hope for those who forsake homosexuality and pursue Christ."

Jeff Johnston, Issues Analyst--Marriage, Homosexuality and Gender, Focus on the Family

"A must-read for pastors, counselors, lay leaders, and same-sex strugglers! Citlau addresses current popular roadblocks in Christian circles and suggests solid ways toward transformation. He highlights practical ways the body of Christ can aid the struggler in 'straining forward to what lies ahead . . . the prize of the upward call of God in Christ Jesus' (Philippians 3:13-14)."

Anne Paulk, executive director, Restored Hope Network

"Ron Citlau bravely supplies compassionate, biblical counsel on perhaps the most divisive issue of our day. He challenges same-sex-attracted Christians not to identify with their temptation, and he calls the church to be their community of love, healing, and family. This is an important book for all same-sex-attracted Christians, and for the people who love them."

Michael Wittmer, professor of systematic theology, Grand Rapids Theological Seminary, Cornerstone University

The Author

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    Ron Citlau

    Ron Citlau graduated from the University of California, Riverside and Western Theological Seminary. He has served in ministry positions in Southern California and Kansas City. He is the pastor of Calvary Church in Orland Park, Illinois, part of the Reformed...

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