He Wins, She Wins

Learning the Art of Marital Negotiation

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Every conflict in your marriage is an opportunity to fall more deeply in love.

You've probably heard a lot of advice on how to resolve conflicts in your marriage. What you may not know is that if a resolution comes only in order to keep the peace, it's no resolution at all. Marriage expert Willard F. Harley, Jr., says there's a better way.

What's different about the He Wins, She Wins approach is the ultimate goal--for you and your spouse to grow in your love for each other. This win-win model for negotiation starts with a simple rule: Never do anything without an enthusiastic agreement between you and your spouse.

Think that sounds impossible? In this book, Dr. Harley will show you how it's been done in his marriage of over fifty years--and in the marriages of the thousands of couples he's counseled. He'll explain the art of marital negotiation, show you how to resolve common conflicts the right way, and help you overcome these common obstacles:

· emotional reactions are preventing calm discussion
· neither of you wants to talk about an issue
· one or both of you are indecisive
· one of you is happy with the status quo
· being enthusiastic about anything doesn't seem possible

And above all, he'll show you how every decision you make together will increase your love for each other.


Have conflicts and disagreements been piling up between you and your spouse? Do you find yourself wondering when it's all just going to boil over?

If so, this book is for you.

With laser-like precision, Dr. Harley gets to the heart of marital conflicts and offers a time-tested way to resolve them. Then he walks you through the five most common sources of conflict in marriage:

· friends and family
· career and time management
· finances
· children
· sex

Finally, he shows you how to overcome obstacles to resolving marital conflicts the right way.


Willard F. Harley, Jr., is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, a marriage counselor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Love Busters; and Surviving an Affair. Harley's most popular book, His Needs, Her Needs, is now available as a video curriculum for churches and small groups. His website, www.marriagebuilders.com, offers practical solutions to almost any marital problem. He and his wife, Joyce, host a daily radio call-in show, Marriage Builders Radio, that can be heard on radio stations nationwide andon his website.


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    Willard F. Harley Jr.

    Dr. Willard F. Harley, Jr. is a nationally acclaimed clinical psychologist, a marriage counselor, and the bestselling author of numerous books, including His Needs, Her Needs; Five Steps to Romantic Love; Surviving an Affair; Draw...

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"Provides clear strategies for developing and practicing a win/win mind-set; recommended for readers looking for advice on marriage or relationships in general."

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